Indecisiveness of a decision

Sometimes when bad things happen, we do tend to act quickly and make a conclusion based on the facts that we have. However, sometimes our hearts are not in sync with the mind. "No, this is not the conclusion that I wanted." And so we return back to looking back at the facts to see if we can conclude it differently, in a way that suits our hearts better.

In a way, it is good to reflect back before making a conclusion, to see that we haven't make a hasty decision in a rush. But often we keep looking at the same facts over and over again, wishing if only it is not so, if only it is like this, hoping to that the conclusion we made can be changed. And because we keep going back and forth, we become indecisive and it makes it hard to let go.

Sometimes, we just have to decide whether it is the best solution, even if it contradicts our hearts. Does it make it right? Well, to tell the truth, there is no right and wrong in certain issues. There are only difference in opinion and pros and cons in each decision. Read more

The Negativity of Child vs The Positivity of Adult

Quote from Yenz:

"...we had spent our youth with much of childishness and negativity most of the time..
always looking at the bad side of a thing
and exaggerate about it
now..that we are adults
why not take another method to look at life..."

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Relationship and exes

Relationship is never an easy thing. Even though all of us may want a simple relationship (whatever that means) with as little conflicts as possible. But each individual are different, so conflicts are inevitable at a point of time. When two difference personalities and views of life are together, there are bound to be a difference in opinion. Well, I'm not trying to be negative on the topic of relationship, in fact I'm doing the opposite. Yes, conflicts are inevitable, but a strong relationship is the one that has less of those. Compromise, communication, understanding between both parties are important.

The other thing is about exes. Most likely when two people decide to be in a relationship, both parties already have their past relationships. I think it is a wise choice not to compare yourself to your partner's ex, no matter how tempting it is. To me, it's just the ego talking, wanting to see whether you are better than that person and because of that, you are together with your partner and not that other person. But it's also a double edged sword, in which you may get depressed or sad when you think about these things. And there is actually no gain in doing such things... aren't you already in that relationship? In fact, I think the past helps shape the person that we are today. Each failed relationship that we've been in helps us to become the (better) person that we are today, so in way, having exes are something to be thankful about =)

On another note, it's also wise not to compare the current partner with the old exes. No one is perfect, and in addition no two person is exactly alike, so there's also no point in making the comparison =)
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The Little Spark After The Dark

Dear All,

Have you all ever experienced in your life "continuous day without happiness", means a lot of things do not go your way, not the way you want it to be. I am quite sure all of us had experienced this.



It is fine if we stay gloomy for a while, thinking our foolish mistakes in the past and I wouldn't say we should go over with it, can't stay with that forever bla bla bla...The reason ? Because it is easier to be said than done. Sometimes there are things that we can't handle ourselves and we do have to share it we someone else. Believe it or not, it will work if you share it with people who are close to you.

Alright,before I get away further from the actual topic. What I want to say is after those gloomy days, keep in faith that there will be a good news or something good will happen that will make your gloomy days brighter. At that very moment, you will feel like a brand new person, remembering vaguely about your past misery days. Therefore, always keep in faith that there will always a brighter future. It happened to me just in the past few days :)

Cheers,
ByuD
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The Beginning of Breezing Thoughts Blog

Finally, after searching for hours just to get a right domain names in blogspot.com, the breezing-thoughts.blogspot.com is chosen.

My wish for this blog is to share some thoughts with people and look forward to receive comments from people :)


Different perspectives, how people see some issue varies among us and it is interesting in a way to see that.

If there is someone who love to share their thoughts , but lazy to create and maintain a blog are most welcomed to email me and I will post it on the site.

Cheers,

ByuD
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